Come to THE DINAH in the comfort of your own home

If you are interested - I've rigged up a little something for those of you who couldn't actually make it to THE DINAH this year. I'm going to take ya'll with me, in my pocket, like a little ALL ACCESS pass of your own.

It's going to be vigilante/guerilla style, I bet things are bound to go wrong and I KNOW it will be a good time.

To tune in click channel cdb There is already 24/7 video content happening there, with a live/in real time chat window so you can chat with other viewers. When I'm about to go LIVE, it will let you know...

In order to be alerted from wherever you are that I'm about to go live, follow me on TWITTER, I'll tweet seconds before it's gonna happen. You can get those alerts sent right to your cell phone!

HERE'S HOW:

1. Go to www.twitter.com

2. Sing up for an account, it's FREE, you just need an email address.

3. Then, click "find people" and enter my name. Then choose to "follow" me.

4. Then, click "settings", click "devices" and make sure your cell phone is connected to your twitter and that "receiving updates" is on.

5. You'll get my twitter updates as a text message and if you happen to want to tune in, you'll know!

My TWITTER updates are also synched to my FACEBOOK update... so if you're facebooking you can keep an eye out there too. I'll be posting my dinah schedule tomorrow (tuesday 3/31) evening.

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LIVE VIDEO BROADCAST from THE DINAH

Ok, I'm trying something new to me in terms of technology and I am going to do live video broadcasts from THE DINAH (thurs 4/2 thru sun 4/5).   Just click "CHANNEL CDB" in the menu tab at the top of this page.

I know lot of people can't be there at one of the biggest lesbian events of the year, so I rigged it up to provide a sort of voyeuristic view of things. I'll be posting a schedule on my blog this week of times you can likely catch a live broadcast and where I'll be and what I'll be doing. 

While at Dinah, I will Twitter & Facebook moments before each time I'm about to go live, so turn on your alerts!

We'll hang out with the And Then Came Lola cast. I'll show you the hotel, the rooms, the grounds, take you to the pool parties, the red carpet, the fashion show, the comedy shows, back stage at events AND out front, we'll talk to folks, have drinks, whatever! I just wanted to be able to provide you all a way to be there & get a little taste of it, even if you can't make it in person...

Oh, by the way - the video player on my site has enabled LIVE TEXT CHAT right below it, so you can comment and chat with all the other viewers in real time while you look through THE DINAH WINDOW...         This sounds kinda fun to me!

More information to come...

MISSION STATEMENTS and YOUR RELATIONSHIP

The Mission Statement of an organization is a short but complete description of the overall purpose and intentions of that organization. It states what is to be achieved, but not how this should be done. Organizations often write a mission statement to help focus their activities and state their priorities.

I believe adopting this approach within our relationship can be a highly effective tool.  After all, a relationship is an organization, made up of 2 people who would do well to understand their common goals - not only in the long run, but in the short run as well - for example when heading out to an event or into a task that may  carry with it more variables than you deal with on a normal daily basis.  

When my partner and I are headed into a hotbed of new and potentially disorienting variables beyond the norm of our everyday lives, we talk it through first.  We get clear on our intention for entering such an environment, (ie: to visit with family and have a conflict free Christmas dinner).

Then we think through potential obstacles to achieving our goal, (uncle harry, fictionally & hypothetically, might get drunk and inappropriate, which might not be a big deal to me but might push certain buttons from my girlfriend's background and cause her anxiety).  

We then create a plan to take care of each other (the individual components of our organization) and thereby our relationship from the potentially damaging stress of that situation.  We discuss with one another what it would require of each another to manage such a situation, and stay on task of our original goal.

This may seem a cold and unheartflet approach, but in actuality it is an under taking designed to care for the heart.  The last thing you want to do is try to figure out what it is a heart needs in the midst of it already being fearful and defensive.

A relationship is a "system" of moving parts and variables, and when new potentially overwhelming variables are going to be introduced into the mix, it is always better to be prepared than taken by surprise.  If a system reliant on electrical components, normally operated indoors,  is going to be exposed to the weather, (the weather being an unpredictable set of variables) then it would make sense to prepare to care for that system by showing up armed with a waterproofed tent.  It may never rain, but you never know.

Another example might be heading off for the Dinah Shore weekend with your girlfriend, or on a "Sweet" adventure vacation.  How often are you and your partner in the midst of hundreds of other lesbians, partying and out for a good time.  It can be a total blast, but I would encourage a conversation first.

Be honest with each other about what you both hope to get out of the weekend.  Are you looking for intimate alone time?  Are you looking to mingle and meet other new people?  What might come up for you if someone flirts with your girlfriend ? How would you appreciate her handling something like that? What potential situation might cause strife for one partner in a way the other never would have foreseen if it weren't for the "mission statement" conversation.

Give it try, open that conversation.... And if you need some guidance,  let's all discuss it here...

VIDEO INTERVIEW with BACKSTAGE MAGAZINE

Cathy DeBuono & Jill Bennett talk to Backstage Magazine about their new web series, "We Have to Stop Now"

OUT AT THE WEDDING - feature film NOW AVAIL on DVD

 

"Out actress Cathy DeBuono sparkles as the lesbian pretending to play the girlfriend of a straight woman in Out at the Wedding. Risa's low-key confidence is extremely appealing, and DeBuono skillfully straddles the line between drama and comedy. By the time the movie is nearing its end, you find yourself more invested in Risa's happiness than the lead character's - and not just because Risa's gay."   -The Afterellen.com 2007 Visibility Awards

"...Risa (Cathy DeBuono) is easily the most magnetic presence in the film..."   - CityPaper.net,  Philidelphia

"...DeBuono really shines in her fantastic and impressive screen performance..." -The Seattle Gay News

"I really enjoyed Out at the Wedding, Cathy (DeBuono) was fantastic..."  -Doria Biddle, co-host of "The Frank DeCaro Show", OUT-Q 109 Sirius Satellite radio

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DEBUONO DOES DINAH

Ok, while this sounds like a porn... it most certainly is not...

However, I am in the midst of figuring how to live-cast from the Dinah for ya'll... right here at www.cathydebuono.com.

I will most certainly be providing you video coverage of what I'm doing while I'm there.  And if I can get all to fall into place, I'll be broadcasting live as well.

So stay tuned for updates on that.  I know alot of ya'll can't make it, but I'm all about bringing us all

together - so check back with me... I'll keep  you posted.  

PARAGRAPH 175 - a piece of gay history

This is the trailer for a documentary film entitled Paragraph 175.  Were homosexuals persecuted during the holocaust in Nazi Germany?  Meet some of the men who survived the ordeal, and share their stories with us.

I watched this film last ngiht,... and knew I had to share it with you all.

"SPITFIRE" the novel by Gina Glass - AVAILABLE NOW

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Dillon McCabe, L.A. City Firefighter, tall and strong, Dillon is secure of her strength as she battles fires. Burned in the past by a love she thought would last a forever, Dillon vowed never again to let anyone close to her heart.
Ashley Wilkerson has a successful career as a doctor at Mount West L.A. Hospital. Ashley has worked hard to get where she is, but not without a cost of one relationship after another.

The two meet after Dillon is injured in a fire. Their attraction is undeniable, their passion unstoppable. Can love conquer all or will their pasts put out the flame of a love that could last a lifetime?

isbn: 9781440108464